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26 September 2007

Father's health

We're going to lose him to lung cancer. A botched attempt at surgery today, in Bursa.. They were supposed to burn some nerve endings leading to his arm for pain relief. Equipment failure.. They will try again tomorrow. I'm a fucking mess. I don't know how to deal with a dying parent.. especially one who's either oblivious or in denial of his condition.. or do I describe myself here? Fuck.


dbadioxide mirror said...

My thoughts are with you here and hope it may help you out to believing in positive outcome for a few seconds at least while you read this.

nhrider said...


I will keep you and your family in my thoughts.

Hans said...

terrible situation Murat, to be in this situation, your father in Turkey, you and your family in the USA...(((
wish you all the strength.

Ardent said...

I am extremely sorry to hear of your father's condition. You have to be strong for your father.

I lost my father in May. He had Lymphoma for two years, but ended up passing away from Heart failure. My father was very brave, he did not want to undergo any treatment for his Cancer. He would say, "When God wants he will take me, I will not suffer treatment." My father however was alot older than your father, he was 83 when he passed away. We were all distressed but my daughter was affected the most, as she is young and was so close to her grandfather.

To this day I thank God for blessing us with such a great father. He had a hard but happy and content life. All the things that were important to my father happened in his lifetime. He grew up three caring children who became independant beings raising their own families. His daughter- in-laws and my husband always showed him incredible respect. He was totally captivated and entertained by his grandchildren. My mother doted on my father every minute of the day.

I pray that God gives you and your family strength in this very difficult and trying time. I pray that your father does not suffer pain and that his condition may go into remission.

Don't worry if your father is in denial, it is his way of currently coping with the situation.

With sincere respect,

Il Bruce said...

I'm thinking about you and your family.

I lost my mother at 62 to cancer. It's never easy. Rely on your friends. Bike friends seem to be great friends. I know mine are.

Murat said...

When I'm feeling down I'll come here and re-read all of your kind words. Thanks.

Mert Ulaş said...

şimdi okudum, çok üzüldüm Murat, umarım ameliyatı iyi geçmiştir ve yakın zamanda sağlığına kavuşur

Murat Altinbasak said...

Thanks Mert. Bu hafta sonu yanimiza geliyor. Zor gunler bizi bekliyor bakalim.. Savasacaz..