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12 October 2007

Bayram is today?

I suppose it would be more meaningful if I knew what the significance of today is. Who was born? Who died? Did Someone ride a fantasy creature across the heavens? My desk calendar says "Day of the Race" and "(Eid) al Fitr". What does "Eid" stand for? Explosive Improvised Device"? Am I just saying what a lot of people are thinking? Sorry to be such a stick in the mud, but it doesn't mean anything to me, and I don't have the strength to fake it. There's nothing to celebrate. If people gave more of themselves to appreciating the value of this life, and not fantasizing about a 2nd life, the world would be a happier, healthier place.


aop said...

It's a good way to get people/families together no?

Anonymous said...

If every day was a holy day, it would be celebrated as a holiday. Then all the problems would simply go away.

"Ramazan Bayrami Kutlu Olsun"

I celebrate all the holy days and holidays . . . we have to have some reason to celebrate. And I am sure we each have our own . . . like being grateful that you can talk, walk, and blog . . .

Murat Altinbasak said...

Sure it is, aop. I get to come home for lunch, at least.
Metin, gratefulness is one of my virtues. but you don't have to be grateful/thankful "TO" something in order for it to be meaningful.

Anonymous said...

but it's nice to be grateful 'for' something, including holidays, one of the last remaining virtues of organized religion.

Ardent said...

I don't know what the true religious aspect of Bayram is, but to me it is celebration of family, getting together, doing away with past grievances, respecting your elders and eating lots of food.

I try to keep the tradition going for my children. All week I did massive shopping, cleaning and cooking. Yet on Bayram day when I got up to do some more preparations, it did not feel right. It was the first Bayram without my father. So I cried a great deal.

We visited my mum and we all went to the cemetary. One can use the time to reflect. I am thankful to God for having such a wonderful and caring father and hope I can bestow grace and goodness in my children as my late father did for my brothers and I.

Anonymous said...

Ardent: Nice commentary . . .

You've captured the essence of it all.

It gives us an excuse to exercise our emotions.

Anonymous said...

I wonder if anyone is celebrating the holidays in 'second life?'

Murat Altinbasak said...

Ardent and Metin, thanks for weighing in.. but this issue isn't as simple as a family tradition for me. I have lousy memories of Bayram in the first place. And with the nearest family 200 miles away, makes it kind of hard to make a big deal out of it. Besides.. one of my biggest challenges with all of it is not even knowing [at my age], what any of it is about, be it Kurban Bayram or Ramazan Bayram. My forehead hasn't touched a prayer rug in about 13-14 years.. which is back when father and I lived together in Rochester NY and the Turkish Society's Camii was only three miles away. Here in Providence RI there is no such amenity. And any mosques in our area are filled with non-Turks who I don't want to pray with, if I wanted to do it at all.. I grew up going exclusively to Turkish-run mosques in Brooklyn and in Rochester. Anything else seems foreign.. like a completely different religion.

Anonymous said...


Agree with you on the 'non-Turkish' mosquerades.

I think you should weigh your options about Sufism and spirituality perhaps like I have (Remember Rumi)

Transcends all religions, and not an organized religion.

Maybe the Turks should change the name of their version of Islam to get away from guilty by association of poor branding . . .??

Murat Altinbasak said...

I really hate that in all those religion classes I was force-fed as a child, we were required to read and write in Arabic, but only phonetically.. no meaning given to the sounds or words whatsoever. It's little wonder that I have no connection to it today, 25-30 years later. Had they taught us in Turkish or English back then, I would have retained so much more of it and been so much more informed. G-d may turn me into stone for saying this, but I hate Arabic. Ironically, my sister's name is Elif.
elif, be, te, se cim, ha ,hi, dal zal ri.. and so on and so forth.